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Gay marriage

11/2/2013

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Last week's Commons vote on gay marriage was taken in the face of clear official opposition from the Church of England.

Did such opposition arise out of a sustained and sincere engagement with the LGBT community, including a serious and open consideration of the theological issues involved? The 1998 Lambeth Conference (of Bishops) committed the Church worldwide to a listening process on matters of human sexuality and gender, but the fruits of such engagement at an official level are, as yet, barely visible.

Jesus worked frequently on the margins of what was considered to be respectability, affirming the breadth of humanity and revealing the image of God in the least expected people. We've inherited both an example and a duty, such that those perceived as outsiders - "them" - may become fully one in Christ with the Christian community - "us". Part of that inclusion is to share and address the issues that hinder inclusion, including the condescending attitude that "we" know best. It may be that we don't - at least, not always. Could this Commons vote be an occasion when God is speaking, not through the Church, but through wider society? Is the Kingdom of God coming a little closer as the rising generation seeks authenticity and justice in such matters?

And what do we mean by marriage? The Book of Common Prayer - a normative expression of doctrine for Anglicans - gives three reasons for marriage. The first, procreation, is not required in order for a marriage to be valid; we accept as fully married those who cannot have children, through age or for other reasons including their personal choice. The second and third reasons - the appropriate expression of sexual desire and 'mutual society, help and comfort' - are valuable aspects, good both for individuals and for society. Should they really be denied to gay couples? Should we not rather celebrate the desire for faithful, stable, life-long relationships - and affirm God's blessing upon them?

I do recognise why this is a contentious issue in the Church. Once I would have toed the party line, but my views have changed over the past quarter-century in the light of pastoral experience, study, and the sustained development of a life of prayer. Wider society has moved on too. Most of us know that human nature is complex, that sexuality is an important component of identity, and that the yearning for appropriate intimacy and companionship is itself God-given. And yes, I'm aware that there are sensitivities in relation to those of other more conservative faiths and cultures, here and abroad. But should such sensitivities preclude the full inclusion into both society and the Church of a significant sector of the population?

The Church has demonstrated in this and other matters of sexuality and gender how spectacularly out of touch it is with society (and with what I and others believe to be the guidance of the Spirit). We've all but lost our prophetic edge as we seek at any cost to maintain the status quo. Little wonder that so many write us off as irrelevant. And that's tragic when we have so much to share that really is good news.

Fr Christopher




3 Comments
Elizabeth Simpson link
12/2/2013 15:08:05

I was heartened by your comments about gay marriage. The way things are & have been are not necessarily the way things ought to be. I have no strong personal views either way, but having listened carefully to the debates I do not see how the church can oppose the state of marriage which it values so highly & publicly.

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Michael chicken and Mel Williams
11/3/2013 13:38:20

As a gay couple who have lived as such for in excess of twenty five years and who are regular and longstanding members of the congregation at All Saints we were delighted to read your comments. We are not politically minded, nor are we on any kind of crusade but it was good to read your reasoned views on what is indeed a contentious issue for the Church. There is a real danger that the Church will increasingly be viewed as irrelevant, it needs to move with the times, not at the expense of it's teachings and values but acknowledging that society is constantly developing and changing. In the twenty five years that we have lived together there have been immense changes to the way in which sexuality is viewed in society this surely has been to the benefit of society as a whole and has resulted in a more diverse and enlightened population. Civil partnerships were and are a great step in the right direction but we are sure that many gay Christians would ultimately favour the recognition of their partnerships in a Christian environment and with the blessing of the Church which is so important to them.

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Paul Metcalfe link
15/2/2013 14:51:03

With respect to Father Christopher, despite a media bias in support of gay marriage, I do not see any evidence of support amongst the populous and wholeheartedly disagree with his comment that the Church is spectacularly out of touch with the people. Indeed, there has been a considerable underbelly of outrage, not only in sectors of the Church, but in the population as a whole over the move to allow gay marriage to be celebrated in a place of holy worship.

Further, Fr. Christopher's comments alluding to Jesus working towards the margins of respectability, are grossly inaccurate. Jesus preached to a local culture where promiscuity, including homosexuality amongst the Roman people was rife. His preachings were based on piety and morality and not permissiveness or pushing the boundaries of common decency.

Twenty first century homosexuality in the UK, is a form of progressivism, where people and in particular children are being taught it to be the norm. Despite our advances in science and general knowledge, we still live in a fragile society where our social fabric is facing a tipping point. Push it too far and we face a realistic danger of it collapsing altogether.

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